What is the real me? Who am I? A question everyone asks themselves at some time during their lives. Some people never ask the question and know who they are from the very inception of their lives.
I know I did but it was not in my early life I asked this question. I was in my early 40’s before I decided to ask the question of myself and others.
I just want to know who I am, how is this possible, what do I do to find out who I am.
Then I realized myself and many others wear many masks at any given time. Sometimes we know we are wearing them and sometimes we are not aware we are wearing them.
We wear many masks throughout our day depending on who we are with and what the situation is at the time. Sometimes we put a mask on to hide who we really are and sometimes we put a mask on for people to either feel sorry for us or to like us.
What mask are you wearing today? What is the real me?
Why as humans do we feel the need to mask our feelings?
- we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings
- we want people to think we are happy
- we want people to think we have it all together
- we are embarrassed about what people will think of us.
- We don’t know how we really feel
- we don’t know how to act in this situation.
Growing up I know I was wearing a mask but did not realize it. As children, we can do this quite easily. When the other kids would talk about their parents and their outings and nice homes, I would agree with them and say how great mine was too. However, I never invited any of them back to my house and would only play with them in public places. They had no idea my Mother would not let me have anyone back to my house. She also was wearing a mask of deception as our house was not a very nice place to be.
As an adult, I wore masks from time to time to hide the life I came from and also think I did not think I was good enough. It took years of training and exploring and research to learn how to love myself for who I was and to be who I was warts and all.
If people did not like what they saw then perhaps they were not for me.
We do however still wear masks from time to time as we do not always want to share our personal lives and intimate details with everyone. As long as we know consciously what we are doing then it should be ok. Not everyone needs to show their true raw self at all times. Sometimes it is not appropriate.
Hiding behind social media.
Social Media has now played a big part where people are showing and sharing their feelings for the whole world to see. This is easier than confronting the person face to face sometimes. Is it the right thing to do considering you cannot take anything you say on social media. Even if you delete it is still there to be found and it is there for eternity.
Is this the place to take off the mask and show our true selves? Considering throughout life we change and develop and anything posted on social media can come back and haunt you at any time in your life.
What masks are you still wearing and why?
As Parents, we hide some of our feelings from the kids so they can feel safe and secure. As partners, we sometimes hide our real feelings about the relationship and do not share our wants and needs. This leads to being in a relationship that is not always healthy and good for us.
What can we do to remove the masks?
- be courageous
- know that it is ok
- be your true self
- take a deep breath and just do it
- live the life you want, whatever that means to YOU
- be yourself
- believe in yourself
How do you know who you are? What is the real me?
When I was growing up I knew what I did not want to be, I had no idea what or who I wanted to be I only focused on who I did not want to be. When I was in my 30’s I saw a presenter on stage motivate and inspire a room with 2,000 people in it. I said to myself I want to be just like her. I am going to be just like her.
I went through the next 10 years not wanting to be one person and focusing on wanting to be like another person. – Nowhere was I focusing on who I was!!!!!! What a lightbulb that was…….
Remove the masks from yourself and take a look at who you are. If you like who you are, then show it to the world. If you do not like who you are, then find a way to become the person you will love.
When you love yourself for who you are, then everyone else will see the real you and love you also. You may need to dig deep. Take a course, read, or seek a professional, whatever it takes – love yourself.
Believe in yourself and others will believe in you, love yourself and others will love you, above all be true to yourself.
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