Transition wow that is a word with a big meaning!!!!.
Going through any Transition can be very scary, worrying and stressful and it can also be very exciting. Many of my clients come to me because they are going through different life changes and want suggestions and help to deal with that change.
What do I mean by that? Take a look at some of these and see what you think:
- Children going to College
- New Job
- Moving House
- Moving Schools
- Moving Countries/Regions/States
There are probably a lot more you can come up with but all of these are stages of a transition in your life. However, what I have found is people do not look at these situations like that. They tend to add fear, anxiety, stress and all sorts of other negative emotions to what is going on in their lives at that time.
How Can You Handle an Emotional Transition?
Most people when they are going through a change in their lives they look at it with fear and anxiety and always figure out the worst case scenario. Therefore your mindset will determine whether you are going through something bad or good.
However, if you look at what you are going through at any given moment as a transition from one place to another, your mindset will look at things differently. Your emotions will change and you will be able to be more objective about your situation.
Easy to say you say, yes I know. I have dealt with thousands of clients over the years and when you change the way you think about things then things change, which was a quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer who used this in his training.
When we use words like devastating, depression, anxious, scared, I’ll never get over it, these words are BIG words to the brain and the body responds to those words with the appropriate emotion.
Think for a moment about changing the words to a lower level word like, feeling down, challenging, nervous, these words change the way your brain and body react and you are not living in a flight or fight state of mind all the time. You give your body time to rest and your brain time to evaluate.
Journal or List
Keep a journal of what you are going through. Write down how you are feeling, what emotions are the most troubling. Write down everything so you get it out of your head and you can then actually read what is going on. This again changes your perception as you are looking at it from a different place.
Grief is a big transition to get through and I have seen clients that decades later are still in the first stages of grief and have never been able to move on and live a happy, healthy life. I had the same challenge when my father died after 5 years I was still acting like he had died that day. It was not a pleasant place to be but I finally took some of my own advice and went to see someone to help me overcome and release what I was holding onto. This inspired me to write my book on Overcoming Grief.
Obviously, there are ways to overcome stress and anxiety which I mention here
Now take a look at what is going on in your life now and what transition are you facing?
Are you going to list down your options, journal your feelings and look at how you can go through this part of your life more positive and happier so you can move onto the next part of your life?
Whatever age you are there will be challenges, there will be disappointments and there will be a loss. How you deal with it is what is important for your health, wellness and your lifestyle and relationships.
Transition is a wonderful thing if you let it be.