Kids and seniors should be looked after differently in the summer, in this post I will give you tips for Summer safety to help through all the changes you are going to experience through the summer and moving forward. Whether you have kids or seniors in you care.
Moving schools, going to college, having an empty nest, letting go, are all scenarios we will face throughout any summer anywhere in the world. This, of course, is full of all sorts of emotions.
Apart from the obvious which is to keep your kids and seniors hydrated and covered with sunscreen, there are many other areas you have to look at to keep them safe in the summer.
Hydrated means drinking water and not soda and coffee, Soda and coffee can dehydrate and not hydrate.
When the kids come home from school for long periods of time, as parents we have mixed feelings, we love they are free and in our arms again, but there are all the other things to consider.
- time off from work,
- planning acitivites
- planning the trip to college or new school
- are you ready to let go of your child or senior?
Grief is very real at this time, most people do not realize that kids saying good bye to school friends they may never see again, seeing your kids off to college is an emotion likened to grief for many.
Seniors may have to say goodbye to neighbors they have been friends with for decades if they move to be with relatives who are going to care for them, or if they are going to be going into a care home.
Kids at a young age make friends and then have fears about moving to a new school or grade without that special friend by their side. They are afraid they will not be liked and will not fit in or make new friends easily.
Parents feel the grief when the kids go off to schools not in their home towns, their babies are now going to leave the nest and learn to fly by themselves! Are they ready?
All of these emotions should be addressed as a family, discussed and acknowledged and more importantly validated.
When discussing with the family how each one feels, respect their feelings. Validate how they feel.
One of the worst things you can do is dismiss what the person is saying. The feelings they are having are real to them even if you do not quite understand how they come to feel that way. This applies especially to the younger members of the family.
Just because they are young does not mean they do not have feelings or know how to express them.
I cover more about grief and the different stages in my book for now here are a few tips.
Some do’s and dont’s
- Do not interrupt when they are speaking, do give them the time to say what they want.
- Do not dismiss what they are saying of feeling, do let them know you understand and let them know it is ok to have those feelings.
- Do not ask WHY this word gives the impression they have to justify themselves, do start your sentence with what, where, how, when….never why.
- Do discuss how you feel and release the feelings in a conversational way, do not lose your temper or patience.
- Do not put words in their mouth, do use the same words they use back to them when answering.
The feelings you and they are feeling are real. If these feelings are not dealt with at the time you and they will carry them with you throughout your lives. This in turn, will influence how you act and react in society and relationships.
This is why we have so many people who cannot communicate and have healthy relationships. They are carrying all their childhood baggage with them.
Talking and communication is key for healthy relationships and happiness.
Prepare for your summer so that you can have a happy and safe time it does not last forever.
Have a great summer!!! 🙂
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Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, Meridian Energy Therapies including Emotional Freedom Techniques,
Hypnotherapist and Author of several books.
Based in Florida Helen helps people locally and all over the world
overcome their life challenges and eliminates their emotional baggage.