Why is there an increase in Child Suicide ?
Suicide rates for those between the ages of 10-14 increased over 50% between 1981 and 2007, also suicide is the third leading killer amongst children ages 10-14 years (behind accidents and cancer). It should be noted that although suicide is under-reported among all age groups, this is particularly true for children.
Being bullied can be a big factor on your childs emotional state, especially if they cannot share what is going on with someone they trust. Bullying not only happens at school it happens at home, and also cyber bullying is a medium that causes even bigger stressors for kids as not only are they being bullied they are being bullied in a bigger public domain.
Tips to help with Cyber Bullies
- Think twice before posting a photo or comment that could be taken out of context
- Report bad behavior to an adult
- Do not portray youth as victims, which can give others the idea they are weak and vulnerable targets
- Save the evidence
- Don’t retaliate
As a parent there are apps and restrictions so that you can keep an eye on what your kids are doing on the internet. Today this is a must with all the predators out there today.
What can you do to de-stress your kids?
Today kids as young as pre K are under pressure to perform, education is important but why so much pressure? One of the ideas put into their brain is if they do not do well they will not succeed in life. Most of us would agree with this!!!!
When children are turning up at school at 7 am and leaving at 2.30 pm and then get home to another 3 or 4 hours of homework to do, this is pressure……. these kids are only 11 and 12. Too much in my opinion.
I know there are adults who work from 7 am till 7.30 pm but usually, most adults work an 8 hour day. What are these kids doing working 12 hour days? When do they get time to be kids?
These kids are exhausted and under a great deal of pressure. Do the schools and teachers actually get together and decide how much homework they are giving each child, I don’t think so……
My granddaughter’s school friend of 14 committed suicide recently and it was all over the news, there was also a 12-year old that committed suicide while going live on Facebook. Unfortunately, her friend who saw it sent the authorities to the wrong address so by the time they got there it was too late.
Since then there have been many small groups within the school, for kids to go to as they know that these people in the group will listen to them and support them.
In the most recent California Healthy Kids Survey, 1 in 3 high school juniors reported feeling chronically sad.
An astonishing 1 in 5 freshmen and juniors reported contemplating suicide. Children do not take long to commit suicide once they have made the decision.
The causes of student distress vary, but 1 in 3 teens told the American Psychological Association that stress was a primary driver, and the single biggest cause teens named was school.
Children seldom leave suicide notes, and they typically have less access to suicidal methods (e.g., guns, pills). When child suicides do occur, they often are officially reported as accidents. (Excerpt from Suicide: An Essential Guide for Helping Professionals and Educators, by D.H. Granello, P.F. Granello, 2007 edition, p. 33-36 .)
- Whether you are Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa or any relative, when the child comes to you and wants to talk – please listen to them without judgment or interruption.
- If the child is moody, not eating, depressed, not sleeping, pay attention to this and ask questions to find out what is causing the change in behavior.
- Talk to the teachers and find out what is going on in school, it just takes a phone call or email to keep updated.
- Look at how much homework they have and if it is possible for the child to fit this in within a reasonable time before getting enough sleep.
- Check their texts and what they are saying to their friends. You can do this from your phone if they are on your plan.
- Find out who their friends are and how they are treating each other.
- Be aware of what they are watching on their devices, what they watch all the time will influence how they behave.
- Set up a trusted network of adults and children they can confide in.
- List of suicide helplines
The parents today had a very different childhood and therefore are learning coping skills to help their children. All of this leads to stress,
All of this leads to stress, anxiety and fear. Everyone needs to communicate with each other, through communication we learn about each other and therefore can help each other. Always let them know they are not alone and they are ok to have the feelings they are having.
Teach them how to meditate, use tapping, teach them breathing techniques, have calming music in the house, I am sure if you give it some thought you can come up with some more ways to be able to help your child.
Taking time to stop just for a moment – be in the moment – take a look at the children in your life – consider what stress they may be under, whatever it is, it is real for them. No matter how small you may think the challenge they are having is.
Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, Meridian Energy Therapies including Emotional Freedom Techniques,
Hypnotherapist and Author of several books.
Based in Florida Helen helps people locally and all over the world overcome their life challenges and eliminate their emotional baggage.
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