How to not be jealous and Overcome Jealousy Insecurity
Jealousy can ruin relationships or does it?
Jealousy is usually defined as the emotional reaction to a threat to your relationship from a real or imagined rival. Most cultures do not tolerate jealousy and the majority of people don’t talk about it because the feeling itself is taboo. So how to not be jealous can be a challenge and a problem in life.
I remember when I was young and first married I used to get jealous of my husband all the time. No matter what he did or who he spoke to I would feel horrible, sometimes I would say something about my fears but most times I would not. I spent a lot of years being miserable and my marriage was not very happy. When I did mention things when I got jealous we would have big fights. Nothing my husband said to me would convince me that what I believed was not true. Imagination can be a lot worse for stress and anxiety because I could imagine all sorts of things. I am sure you understand how
I spent a lot of years being miserable and unhappy, imagining all sorts of things that my husband might be up to. Needless to say, my marriage was not a very happy one. When I did mention things when I got jealous we would have big arguments and fights. Nothing my husband said to me would convince me that what I believed to be happening was not true. Imagination can be a lot worse for stress and anxiety because I would imagine all sorts of things. I am sure you understand how your imagination can run away with you.
The area of the brain which controls jealousy has been found, scientists have announced. It is the same part which detects real physical pain. The amount of stress this puts on yourself for no good reason is such a waste of energy. This stress also manifests itself into physical pain. Headaches, chest pain, high blood pressure and insomnia to name but a few.
Jealousy can be positive when one person in the relationship gets jealous because they feel threatened their behavior can change by putting an arm around their partner, moving in closer, speaking softly to them. This then will have the effect of the relationship becoming more loving and stronger. So do you feel proud to be with your partner when others are eyeing them up or making advances on them or do you get really jealous and ruin the moment. Is this how you want your relationship to be? The only time your mate shows you any attention is when they feel threatened and from a place of jealousy? This is not really a healthy relationship.
Overcoming Jealousy at work is something you must also tackle. When jealous of a work colleague this can cause all sorts of mistakes and misunderstandings. When you are doing the best job you can you again should trust yourself that you will be noticed by the people who are in charge of promoting you. You must also watch your back and learn how the system works within the team or office you are part of. Jealousy should not really be part of your strategy.
Effects of Jealousy on your body.
Not only do you feel bad when you are jealous, you are also causing pressure on your body. Remember when jealous in any type of relationships including your business rivals, your co-workers, your fellow bloggers, you are only causing yourself harm and nobody else. You are also coming from the universal place of lack. How does your lunch look to you when you find out your work mate has just got promoted above you. You feel sick to your stomach literally and cannot eat.
How does your lunch look to you when you find out your work mate has just got promoted above you. You feel sick to your stomach literally and cannot eat.
- Blood pressure rises
- Digestive system under stress
- Heart raises and spikes
Overcoming jealousy and insecurity is something you will want to work on, this can save family challenges, save relationships, save your job, stop you being alone and generally make you more healthy and nice to be around.
Children learn how to be jealous at a very early age depending on how they are treated by the adults around them. Siblings can get very jealous especially when the parents give one more attention than the other. At school, they get jealous of the ‘cool’ kids or the popular kids and think they are not good enough. This also leads to depression, stress and ill health. If taught how to deal with these feelings of jealousy at an early age will really help them in the future.
Trust, learn how to trust yourself, trusting and believing in yourself goes part way to getting rid of your jealousy of others. Learn how to be at work and controlling how you feel about other peoples successes believe you can achieve anything.
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