How many times do you hear the words that you have to change your ways? How often do you ask the same question of someone else?
What do you do when you can’t change, or won’t change?
The definition of change is different for each person depending on their perception of their lives.
Some people are so scared of change they get themselves stressed out so much they have panic attacks. We fight to hold onto what is familiar, secure and comfortable. We as humans love to be comfortable. Many of us get very unsettled and fear change of any kind.
So I am proposing you be comfortable being uncomfortable.
Read that back again and think about it.
Adapting to change has been something I have been doing for most of my life. I have learned to treat change as an adventure and something to look forward to instead of something to dread. My parents moved us from Scotland to England when I was 16 and that was a major change, the first time I had been away from everything I knew and grew up with all my life.
At 19 I was married and moved to Australia, talk about scary……my husband and I knew absolutely nobody at all in Australia. England to Australia is a lot of miles.
Is it a scary adventure sometimes, yes, but sometimes change is forced upon us and we have to suck it up anyway whether we like it or not. Whether death, end of a relationship, new school, new job all of these things force us to change.
I am not here talking about goal setting and staying comfortable where you are and not achieving your goals, I am talking about what life throws at you every day.
Life throws different curve balls all the time and you can give into fear or you can roll with the punches and be in the moment and experience life as it happens.
When there is construction on the route we take every day we have to make a change to our route, this can be annoying at best but it is still a change you have to deal with.
Stress plays a major factor in our health and if you are stressing over every change that happens to you then the potential damage to your health is greater.
It has taken me a long time to figure out that all the moves I have made ( all of which were not of my choice) has taken me to where I am meant to be at this time in my life. I feel very comfortable and content and excited about where I am right now.
Whatever plans you make, whatever hopes and dreams you have will manifest themselves, it may not be as quickly as you would like but it will come to pass.
Your attitude to the changes in your life will determine how the change affects your emotional and physical state. I mention a lot of changes I have gone through this in my book and how to deal with them. Being aware of your emotional state is the first step to dealing with the change you are going through.
Take one day at a time and focus only on the day, not tomorrow or next week or next year, be in the moment and dealing with change will be so much easier.
As always when it comes to emotional issues I always recommend Emotional Freedom Techniques
Embrace change and look forward always. You cannot live your life looking back all the time.
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