Avoiding Holiday Stress!
The holiday season is a hectic period for most; everyone is scurrying around finding ways to accomplish many things to celebrate the holiday season with. It most certainly is a period of cheerfulness as well as pleasure.
It can also be a period of stress coupled with exhaustion. When you include all the shopping around, cooking, wrapping of gifts, packing of gifts, shipping of gifts, errands and also traveling to the already tight schedules of a good number of business owners, it’s not very difficult to soon reach a point of meltdown.
No surprise when all of the festivities ends, you feel worn down, spent, and perhaps even unwell. Stress alone isn’t that threatening. It is rather our response to stress that results in health-related problems.
Getting through the holidays stress free?!?!?! Is there such a thing as avoiding holiday stress?
Some are very excited and happy and love any opportunity to be with their families. There is a good percentage of people in my experience that do not look forward to family gatherings.
Are you going to be traveling somewhere, the stress of getting the right flight, train, route at the right price on the perfect day and time is enough stress to really put you over the edge. 🙂
Are you preparing a big meal for the family to eat at your house? This is stressful, what to cook, can you satisfy all the dietary needs of all your guests? Do you have enough dishes, space, food and so it goes on. Stress!!!!!!! How can you avoid it really?
Avoiding holiday stress can be overwhelming and a task that many may not achieve. There are many factors that cause stress when families get together for celebrations. These celebrations can be for vacations, birthdays, anniversaries, wedding, christenings, funerals and so it goes on. Throughout the year there are many occasions for families to get together. Many occasions to get stressed.
Holiday time………Happy? Sad? Anxious? Fearful?
Holiday celebrations are usually a time when families and friends get together and celebrate. Living rooms are full of people some which have traveled miles and miles to get there. Looking forward to being together again and being as one.
But….. some people in the room are not feeling it, they feel lonely, depressed, scared, anxious and the people around them do not even notice. Avoiding holiday stress seems too overwhelming.
Family histories dictate the mood of the gathering and people become very anxious and nervous waiting for things to explode.
Blended families also have challenges, the children now have 2 sets of families and either have to choose which family to be with or have two gatherings on the same day. The blend depending on how well it was handled at inception will determine how things pan out at gatherings. Compromise should be the word of the day here.
Thanksgiving Holiday is about giving thanks for what we have . Sometimes we are not thankful for what we have because what we have is unhappy, abusive, depressing, painful, financially a struggle and much more. How can you avoid holiday stress with all that going on. Also this is where we tend to eat emotionally. Eating even though we are not hungry but we have to do something. Thanksgiving is not the only holiday where we have the emotions and emotional eating. Any family gathering can be called a holiday of some kind.
Our Inner Child, plays a big part in the proceedings and we act out with the re-creation of the emotions we felt as children growing up. We are triggered by a look, a smell, a voice or a discussion about a family memory.
Some people have many choices and are happily enjoying these choices, but there are some people, who through a sense of duty, guilt or loyalty have to be somewhere they really do not want to be. You can get through this and do not have to live the rest of your life dreading every family gathering.
What can you do?
Stay in control, if you can do something about the situation then do it, if you cannot do anything about the situation then accept it and dismiss it out of your thoughts. Walk away from the person who is causing you the emotion. If possible give yourself a time limit of when you are going to be at the event and then leave before it becomes too stressful for you. Avoiding holiday stress and family stress is not always the best option because when you avoid something you are not dealing with the challenge and therefore it will always be there.
Do not put yourself in a situation where you are alone and vulnerable.
Before the Occasion
Seek professional help to overcome these feelings. As always I recommend learning Emotional Freedom Techniques, which you can use before the event and also during the occasion to keep yourself calm and stress-free.
Many of my clients have stories to tell, I myself can tell you a few!!! I continually work on my feelings from my childhood but I also notice the children around me and can see the signs and go out of my way to help them.
I continually work on my feelings from my childhood but I also notice the children around me and can see the signs and go out of my way to help them. Since time began children have been going through all sorts of abuse, loneliness, and emotional traumas. Many grow up and repeat what they had done to them and many change the way they think children should be treated.
If you see the children in your family looking as though they are fearful of the people around them, be the person they can trust and share the secret they are not allowed to share. Be there for them even if there was nobody there for you.
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